Sunday, August 23, 2009

Love is

My basic idea is that Love is pretty pure.

It doesn't bother emotional and sexual attraction, and once you Love someone you can never un-Love them, much like the way it’s written in the Bible. And because of those views, I denounce a difference between unconditional Love and a conditional love. You either Love or do not. There is no difference between a mother and child's Love and the Love of Romeo and Juliet. But much the same way a child learns not to touch a stove or hot pot, you learn not to be around a Love that is dangerous, bad or unhealthy for you.

Finding a healthy working Love requires two main things, an emotional and sexual connection. If you have one without the other, you're setting yourself up for failure in a relationship.

You can’t change someone; you just have to hope they can grow with you, which is the basis of emotional connection. And you can’t be with someone who loves sex more than you or less or likes acts of sex you don't or vice a versa. There are too many people building a relationship on 1 out of 3 of those points: love, sex, or the emotional attachment.

And those people are miserable.

I know people who are in a relationship because emotionally its right, and they are ready to cheat for a sexual connection. And I know people in a relationship just for the sex, thinking the emotional and Love are there, and will be hurt when they find out how wrong they are.

If you find yourself in a situation where you don’t have all three stems of the triangle, you may need to relearn not to "touch the hot pot.”

1 comments:

Dani said...

I agree with you Tommy, but would add a few more criteria. A loving romantic relationship also needs spiritual and intellectual compatibility as well as emotional and physical. Some similar world views are also important.
I also think that a person CAN stop loving someone if they realize that the person they fell in love with in the first place didn't really exist, i.e. their lover was a liar about who he or she really was. The hurt person may not ever stop loving the idea of the person they believed their lover to be, but they can detach themselves and move on from the reality of that dishonest ex-lover. I don't know if that makes any sense... lol.